Answer: Dear Mark most people want a relationship with others. They want a relationship that means something to them. They want to feel loved, respected and appreciated by another person. People are looking for someone they are attracted to and can share mutual love and respect.
People want someone to treat them nice and prove their love them. Most people want to be loved, you almost never will meet someone who wouldn't want to feel loved, important and valued by another person. Don't try too hard to be nice though. It's o'kay to be nice and respectful but don't over do it.
When someone is trying to be too nice though, they come across as they want something from others. Sometimes the nicest people turn out to be the most controlling people with very high expectations.
My advice for you is to learn to love yourself and be comfortable with yourself first. Learn to love God, find passion in life and don't focus too much over your broken relationships. Be open to new relationships and new people, but don't obsess over every word someone told you and don't expect a lot from people who you barely know.
It takes time. Find a hobby and go to places where you can meet a lot of people, take time to get to know them and don't rush too much.
When someone is desperate for relationships, it can push people away. People want to know you, they want to know if they need you and want you, it's hard to get to know someone based on looks only.
So, take your time, enjoy activities that others enjoy, get to know people slowly and build relationships. Be nice and friendly to people. If you don't have close relationships with anyone, enjoy your freedom and enjoy who you are.
Find positive in every situation. Try to understand that you don't need to control other people to feel good about yourself. Know that God loves you and you are great the way you are.
People want to have relationships with someone who they perceive valuable. The value will be different for each person. For someone certain look, age, status is valuable, while for others other things are more important.
Also, don't give up. It takes time to find what you are looking for and you would have to meet a lot of people. So, be patient, and even if you can't find a good relationship, enjoy what you have a the moment because most people don't even have what you have in life.
Remember that everyone wants to feel loved, valued, important and appreciated in a relationship by someone who they perceive to be valuable or important to them.