My wife cries often

Dear Tall Girl, I have been married for 11 years and my wife cries often. I don't want to encourage her crying, so I go to another room when she cries. Why doesn't she cry so much and how can I help her to stop crying? Anonymous

Anonymous, your wife is very emotional and I can see why you would be so much concerned with her crying so much. Some women more emotional than other women or other men.

Maybe her physical and emotional characteristics are more unique and different than yours. It's can be very normal for some women to cry more often while other don't cry as much. Some women even prefer crying because it helps them to deal with the stress or other situations. Most of the time when a woman cries it is her way to deal with anger. Angry women cry more. If she has anger problems, she could could cry very often. Many people perceive crying as a weakness but in reality this is how women deal with anger and frustrations. If she isn't angry at you, she probably could be angry at herself or God or her life...

What to do when your wife cries ?

You, like most men don't know what to do when your wife is crying. It could be a great opportunity for you both to connect emotionally. Don't get upset if you don't know how to help her. Just try to help her and tell her you want to do everything to help her, she will appreciate that you are trying. Don't worry if you don't know what to tell her to make her feel better, she will appreciate your effort and desire to help her.

Many women prefer crying only behind close doors and many husbands don't even know that his wife is crying secretly from him. Since you know your wife is crying, you can be sure she trusts you a lot. We don't know want to cry in front of somebody who we don't trust. That's why many wives cry secretly from their husbands, they cry quiet, so he wouldn't know.

Appreciate that your wife does not hide her emotions from you, it means she trusts you. Come to her and give her a hug. You don't even have to say anything right, just be there for her, give her a hug and show her a sign of compassion.

Sometimes men say "I'm sorry you are crying, I'm sorry you feel this way" it could be just words to her, but really ask her what bothers her. Let her talk to you. Don't argue, don't tell her your point of view, just listen to her. After she done talking to you, just tell her you understand her feelings and why she would feel this way. If she tells you something, rephrase exactly what she said, so she will feel heard.

Many women are trying to tell something over and over because they don't feel heard. If your wife is so talkative, don't just say "yes" but repeat the words that she just told you. It will help her to feel understood and heard by you. This will lead to an emotional connection between you and your wife.

We all want to be understood and connect emotionally. This is a perfect opportunity for you to connect emotionally to your wife. Accept her when she cries and feels bad, tell her you love her and you want to help her. It is very difficult for her and focusing to feel the way she does, she probably feels helpless and frustrated, so your willingness to help her when she is down, and she will remember it for a long time. She will know she can trust you and rely on you during hard times, when she feels alone and helpless.