How to deal with breaking up

Breaking up can be really devastating especially if you didn't see it coming. How can you deal with breaking up, with the pain of a broken heart? You probably blame yourself that you didn't do something right.

You maybe think that if you only could do something right, you could keep that person with you. You had your personal hopes, dreams, you liked somebody and being rejected can be very painful. Being rejected when you accept him/or her with all her baggage, faults and everything.

But no matter how much you hoped to be together, no matter how nice you tried to be for the other person, you just can't make someone to like you. If you do everything the other person wants and ignore your own needs, how fair can it be to you? Would you be really happy in a long term relationship if you always hope for more and you never get the affection returned?

Breaking up

Yes, breaking up is unfair to you because you didn't want it, so how do you deal with it? The best way to forget about someone is to find somebody new. It would distract you from the person you got attached and give you new and fresh exciting feelings.

If you were deeply in love with the other person and don't want anyone new. If you are afraid that you will get heart broken again and again and you are affraid to try to form new relationship, then you need to focus on something else.

Maybe it's your job or your hobby that will distract you from negative thoughts about break up. Your new painful feelings about break up could be a start for creativity in your new job or something else you want. Find something to think about other than your break up.

Of course you want to think about your break up all the time, to find out what mistakes you made. Believe, me there is no mistakes, if it was suppose to work out, it would work out despite any obstacles. It probably haven't meant to be. So, it's not your fault.

More broken heart after a break up

How do you deal with feelings of regret, shame and embarrassment that you couldn't please the other person? What do you do when you feel pain and devastation from trying to make somebody happy and they aren't please with you after all? What do you do with trusting someone so much and then get heart broken?

You need to forgive. You need to forgive not only the other person for hurting you so unfairly, but also forgive yourself for trusting so much and loving someone so much.

Don't get angry at yourself and blaming yourself for being stupid to trust others, forgive yourself and know you did everything you could have done in your current situation.

As long as you know you had a pure heart and you wanted everything for the better you don't need to be angry at yourself and your ex partner.

Be grateful for the things you have in your life. Be grateful for your health, job, money, friends and family, your pets, whatever you have that you like because somebody else would want it. Try to be grateful and forgiving of others. If someone treated you unfairly it's only because they were treated by badly by someone else. People learn how to treat others from how they have been treated.