Why men have affairs

Some men have affairs. Why is that? It's because of his belief system. His beliefs and values. What you think is important and what is important to you, is completely different to the other person. Just because you think that honesty and fidelity is important, it might not be important to some men.

Men who have a affairs are trying to chase a fantasy. They have an image in their mind that the other woman can give him attention and pleasure that he craves and it's o'kay with him.

Yes, it's hard to believe that some people would feel o'kay with having an affair, but it's true. Some people think it's o'kay and have no guilt about it whatsoever. They are looking for love in the wrong places.

Everybody wants love and crave love and some people substitute the feeling of emptiness with sex, alcohol or drugs or other questionable activities.

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Men have affairs because it's important in his mind, he thinks it's important to him, even that he doesn't really have a valid reason for it. He can bring all the arguments why he needs to cheat, but the only answer to "why?" is because it's what he believes in and how he thinks. Yes, it's all comes down to how he thinks.

Cheating man and non-cheating men are only different in the way they think, it's all.

Men want love and affection and they associate it with sex. Having affairs can leave him after awhile very empty too, so it's just a quick fix for a moment. Like jumping from the high bridge in the cold water, it's a thrill, it's a rush, to destruct him from emptiness and lack of love in his real life. Men looking for love in the wrong places and they don't even realize it.

If he can find, get, experience and give the real love, other things would be more important to him. If he knew what real love is, he would want to make a right thing, he would want to help people and not hurt them. If he is so wounded from his upbringing, he could subconsciously search for affairs to heal his soul, but it's the wrong way to go about it.

The most important answer to your question: He doesn't have affair because of you. It's because of him and his emptiness and pain he is trying to fulfill. There is nothing you can do about how he feels. It's not your fault if you can't keep him happy.

It's only his decision and his choice to have affair or not. He made it important in his mind, more important than marriage, more important than pleasing wife and there is nothing you can do because it's his (unfortunate) free choice.