How to deal with angry people - why are some people mean to others

Why are some people mean to others. When you meet someone who is negative, angry puts others down and criticizes and harsh others, do you wander why is that so? Mean people, abusive people are actually more sensitive than they seem. They hurt a lot deep inside that's why they respond with anger to any situation that irritates them. Angry people are those who get irritated a lot and has many deep unhealed wounds.

Angry person is the one who actually suffers a lot. Anything that reminds him of his insecurities and his wounds in the past, he will get angry, annoyed and upset easily.

Mean people hurt others because they are hurt or they were hurt before. So, don't get upset or angry when someone isn't nice to you, always remember that he hurts more and more often than you do.

Another reason why some people are mean and abusive is that they were mistreated, they didn't get love and affection that they needed the most in life, so they treat others the way they were treated because they don't know any better.

For example, when a person was deeply hurt before, even a slight reminder of his painful past will send him to agony. It can be very painful to have to deal with others when almost every action or situation with people hurts him and brings him pain, so he will inflict pain on others as well.

Angry people and mean people are like those with 3rd degree burns feel and get easily upset even at the slightest touch and the slightest reminder of his painful past.

So, what do you suppose to do when you are around mean people? First of all, remember that it's not your fault that someone doesn't treat you as you want to be treated. It's not your fault if someone doesn't like you and is mean to you.

Don't get upset that you can't please somebody. Some people are really hard or impossible to please no matter how perfect you would be.

If you keep remembering all of this than you would understand they hurt you because they were hurt before or because they are hurting now. Even situations that don't seem difficult to you maybe very difficult for a mean person.

The best solution in your situation just to avoid a mean person as much as possible, give him as much time and space as he needs to heal. Healing process is long and takes time.

Just your presence could hurt a rude person a lot and there is nothing that you can do about it, just remove yourself from the situation if you can.

Always be true to yourself, be nice and kind to others. Everyone deserves love and respect. Respect everyone to the ability that you can, don't promote hostility, but be sensitive to people's needs.

Rude people are very emotional and sensitive to hurt, that's why they hurt others. Just try to avoid and not to annoy him would be the best solution for you both, until he gets healed and won't want to hurt you.